Patriarchy, Shame, and Cannabis

Sculpt Your Identity through a Conscious Cannabis Relationship

Patriarchy, Shame, and Cannabis

A long time ago – around 4000 B.C. – there was a massive shift in human consciousness (of our direct lineage – not including the much earlier civilizations of Atlantis and Lemuria).

It had come time for humans to further evolve their technological brains – which was very useful – and also the era of domination had begun. The first evidence of battles started to appear. Our relationships with ourselves, each other, and the world around us had changed to one of physical technologies. External technologies. Out of this came stoplights, iPhones, automation of all types. We had to learn to dominate in the area of technology, and in doing so we took on eyes of objectification in our relationships as well.

We are now moving away from the patriarchy. The shadow masculine is making its final attempt at world domination, and it won’t be pretty, but it will be a critically important time for all of us as it wakes us up to deeper and deeper levels of focusing on the importance of relationship. In the way that patriarchy values domination, matriarchy values partnership.

One of the most important emotional artifacts that we’ve picked up from this period of domination has been the powerful sense of shame that has come along with it. When a child grows up in domination based culture, shame is the programmed punishment for being the one on the receiving end of domination. This has inspired us to forcefully and take, and thus we have forgotten how to receive gracefully. The goal of shame, in its naive innocence, is to bring us back to power through anger. When we feel angry we feel powerful, and shame is intended to get us angry so that we may become the ones who are dominating instead of being dominated.

For those who are still learning to identify shame – it is a sense of death. Impending doom. It has been called the quintessential negative emotion – it is utterly binding and feels like imprisonment in our own body.

Shame is based on the assumption that we are experiencing (or about to experience) interpersonal disconnection. Shame believes it is being abandoned. For example, if we spill a glass of milk and ‘feel bad’ about it – if we feel sheepish and fear being scolded – we are afraid that we are about to be emotionally or physically abandoned. We are abandoning ourselves, out of our innocent and logical habit, in order to feel less pain when someone else abandons us. This may also leads to us becoming angry about our own mistake and move toward self-abuse or verbally/emotionally/physically abusing our fellow humans in order to try and move the attention away from our mistake and onto the faults of others. It tends to happen so fast and automatically that we don’t even catch it. In a sense, we have automated ourselves as we have automated the world.

This is also the reason men have a reputation with women of being lazy – because they value automation in order to attain longer periods of stillness. Only in stillness can their minds become quiet enough to witness and appreciate feminine nature – and therefore find the balance they seek. This stillness is something that many have sought through cannabis usage – which for this reason tends to be favored much more by men.

Cannabis has multiple ways in which it interacts with shame. Because cannabis is a strong feminine energy, it may be triggering and cause anxiety for people who associate strong feminine energy with anger – with being shamed. Because of this, cannabis usage leads many people to feeling anxiety or paranoia as if something bad is about to happen. This can be addressed physically, by removing excess estrogen in the liver, and also emotionally – one way being focusing on the strength of an interpersonal connection.

Additionally, because we live in a patriarchal culture which has conveniently manufactured a taboo against the usage of cannabis, many people aim to generally shame cannabis users for their alliance with the plant. In other words, this is still cannabis related paranoia – but for an external reason rather than for an internal reason.

The ‘laziness factor’ imbued primarily upon men – the masculine thirst for efficiency – is also the reason for over-usage of cannabis. The misnomers of “This worked in the past” and “More is better” are employed.

As we learn to empower ourselves with a psychological and spiritual toolbox for empowered and conscious cannabis usage – intended to reprogram our domination pattern to a partnership pattern – we can learn to trust the plant, trust ourselves, and trust those with whom we surround ourselves to take aligned actions toward the next stage of human evolution.

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About the author

Joshua Falcon-Grey

Joshua is a filmmaker and psycho/spiritual transformational artist. He designs new ways to incorporate technology, plant medicines, and personal development into experiential learning. He enjoys public/comedy speaking as well as providing personal, business, and relationship coaching. More info can be found on his personal site.

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